Music has always played a large role in my life. Growing up my Mom listened to John Denver and classical music, while my Dad was all country. I didn’t mind listening to their songs as long as I was able to listen to Madonna on cassette in my room. Yes, I’m that old.
After my son was born, I read that children’s brains develop better listening to Mozart while they sleep. So, I played it on a CD player most nights (maybe one of the reasons he’s so smart). Now it’s on You Tube for three hour duration in many forms. As he got older I bought him every Kidz Bop CD he wanted. They were fun, upbeat songs from the top twenty’s list that kids recorded. He loved them, honestly so did I! I would take him to school and pick him up from school with a fun song blaring in the car. A good start and a end to the school day…happy…joyful…smiling…laughing…free spirited. The five things we need to do as adults!
Music plays a big role in your mood and mental health. Have you ever been stressed out driving to work, but then your favorite upbeat song comes on the radio? Next thing you know your singing “Wake me up before you go, go!” by Wham from 1984. After that your a little more light hearten and looking for another upbeat song to get you through your drive. If you’re listening to a local radio station and you drive to work at the same time everyone else does, you don’t have to change the channel at all. They know you want upbeat music for your drive in and drive home.
So, how is it keeping you single?
Are you listening to sappy music? The sad songs that talks about how broken you are, like “What hurts the most” by Rascal Flatts. Stop doing it! If you can’t stop, then that means you are not done healing from your previous relationship. I recommend buying “Dating from the Inside Out” by Dr. Paulette Sherman, it helped me.
Are you listening to revenge music? Revenge songs is the same as listening to sappy music, just with more pain. Dangerous pain! Everyone would love to be like Carrie Underwood in the video “Before he cheats” Unfortunately, infidelity is something not many can get over quickly, and without wanting to destroy something they love, like a car in the video. Infidelity is by far the worse betrayal of trust and recovery from it is extremely difficult. Once you think you are recovered from it and meet someone, trust issues will start to emerge. Time and communication are the only two things that can help you here.
Are you listening to power music? I am all about being independent and being in charge of your life. If you follow me you here me say “Life is too short” all the time. “Live you dream, do what you want!” All great things but are you keeping out everyone because life is great the way it is now for you…ALONE. Do you really want to be alone? Who wants to get a wedding invitation and no plus one to go with? Or your favorite show is coming to Shea’s, but no one to ask if they want to go with you. Maybe it’s just the quiet nights and nobody is there to talk to or hold. Power music doesn’t help at all then.
Then there’s music that just point blank says your not going to get into a relationship. My personal favorite “Lone Ranger” by Rachel Platten. I have to admit this one is on my playlist, and I know it doesn’t do me any good.
What should we should be listening to?
Love songs! Love songs with the possibility of forever. Celine Dion “The Power of Love” will make any women want to be in a relationship again. Shawn Mendes “There’s Nothing Holding Me Back” is a great song that will inspire you to never hold back your feelings of love. Another song that’s on my personal playlist: Kelly Clarkson’s “Move You.” It will definitely will make you want to love again.
Just image how life would be if you “Can’t Stop The Feeling” by Justin Timberlake or how “Happy” you would be clapping along with Pharrel Williams. Enjoying life and being happy is very attractive! Putting out good energy into the world will most definitely come back to you. If these two songs and other songs like them aren’t on your playlist, you might want to give it a try.
“What About Us” by Pink has always been the theme song for Offline Connections. As I listen to so many singles and feel their pain…What About Us!! “What about all the broken happy ever afters, what about all the plans that ended in disaster, what about love, what about trust, what about us!” I believe Offline Connections is the answer, I know it works, I’ve seen it work! “What About Us” is OUR theme song! Together we will help each other make it easier to find each other. Join me in helping to fight the epidemic of loneliness. If you’re not lonely, think of your soul mate. They might be, while waiting for you to find them.
Rita Jane with “Dear No One” by Tori Kelly